Saturday, 21 April 2007

Grandma's funeral..

My grandma passed away peacefully on the 18th of April at 8am "because of heart failure if I'm not mistaken", then the doctors put her in the "Rumah Mayat" in the freezer. After that day, my mum ordered coffin and they brought her to the funeral parlor located in St Joseph Catholic church so people can visit her. It was a nice place because it was fully air conditioned with modern designs and etc, yet the toilet is just located in front of the parlor where the St Joseph and St Tressa students always hang out there and smoke.. They wouldn't know there's people in the parlor coz the sliding door was heavily tinted, it's possible to see out but people can't look in on day time... But it's the other way round at night.. "U know wat i mean"

Anyway, my cousins and uncles from KL and Singapore came to pay their last respect, one of my aunt even drove all the way from Bintulu and it took them 8 hours to reach here... The minute my cousin Sarah went into the parlor to visit my grandma in her coffin, she broke out in tears and her mum auntie Sally also... They even spent a night in the parlor together with aunt Sally, her daughter Sarah, her son Leslie and her son's wife, and uncle Thomas.. They slept in the parlor i think.. Anyway there is a grave just beside the parlor so i think they slept in the parlor LOL!!! Btw they are from my mum's side, aunt Sally is my mum's eldest sis...
On the 20th of April which is yesterday which is grandma's "funeral day", a group of old ladies went into the parlor and gave some prayers which it sounds like some Buddhist prayers, and my cousin Sarah broke out in tears again. After that, they brought her into the church for funeral and all my relatives from dad's side and of course mum's side were present to pay some respect...
After the mass leaded by Father Albert, they brought her body into the hearse, then i was so hurt to see grandma being brought into a hearse so i cried, and this is the 1st time i cried in public in front of my cousins, aunties and uncles... I was crying looking at the back door of a Kia Pregio hearse being closed by the workers as my grandma was in it.. Then my cousin Leslie ask me to start getting into my brother's car and i was the only one crying in the back seat... It's kinda embarrassing though but i just love my grandma so much and i just can't hold back the tears, so i just let the tears out... And the saddest part is, i didn't manage to visit her before 18th of April, i didn't have the chance to hug her and kiss her chicks saying goodbye like we always did in the nursing home, and i felt so sad because i did not manage to say goodbye and tell her that i love her.. =sobbing= :'(

When we are on the way to the grave, i saw Nicole's car and she was smiling talking on the phone and i waved at her, i don't think she know that I'm sobbing LOL... And she message me saying that she's sorry for my lost sending her condolence... Thanks Nicole :) and I felt better after that..
The minute we reach the grave yard where grandpa is buried, the church workers already prepared cements to cement the grave after the coffin is in... When the coffin is on top on the grave, i was asking grandpa for a favor asking him to take a good care of my grandma and don't quarrel that often like they did when i was small... They always quarrel in Bahasa Sarawak because never wanted to learn how to speak English as you know that my grandfather is American/Malaysian Caucasian, and he don't understand mandarin and teochew.. Actually all my cousins from my mum's side is very westernize even though they are chinese and malay, yet all of them can't even understand a single word of mandarin.. And me and my siblings are the only ones among all the cousins which can actually speak mandarin and hockien fluently.. "except for my eldest bro" coz he couldn't speak mandarin... But at least he can speak hockien la... Back to the burying part, before they put the coffin into the grave under the hot blazing sun, Father Albert was there and he gave some prayers and my cousin Lauraine was sobbing beside me.. After that they put grandma's coffin in and we threw some flowers in and the workers put on the concrete and cement it.. then Leslie light some candles and put it there...
There's a sum of money grandma gave us and ask us to spent it after she passed away, so my cousin was thinking of spending it for a dinner at a Chinese restaurant called Hai Pao Wang in Padungan area... I can tell you that the food in that restaurant is yucky... I only enjoyed the mutton and the mixed vegetables.. Oh yea, and the huge fish.. Haha.. And my Malay uncle were there talking crap and criticizing her wife which is my aunt.. He always did that, kinda like him though, just imagine, he is a Malay yet he eat pork and always kiss his dog, he even sleep with his dog everyday together with her wife... And he even celebrates Christmas and none of his children can speak Malay... All English... After the dinner, cousin Sarah hugged me saying goodbye coz she will be goin back to singapore today... And that's it... My mum's family side seldom get together like that haha... Unless there is a funeral or something.. Because most of them is not in Kuching...
Well, that's all about grandma's funeral... I already run out of topic to talk about so, buh bye...

2 comments:

Ќёń ♥ said...

Happy reading ?! My goodness ... i don't think we can still be so happy after reading such kind of post le .. so sad le ... anyway, wish ur grandma and grandpa can live happily in da heaven .. =p

Sean said...

Haha i don wan anyone to feel sad also ma...